Mark your calendars for this Saturday July 14 because it is time to dance at benefits in the Hamptons and these are two of my favorites.  On Saturday from 4 to 8 pm is the Hamptons Tea Dance hosted by the Empire State Pride Agenda.  While this is the see and be seen spot for gay guys and gals it is also the best place to go on a beautiful afternoon and dance and support a good cause.  My ruffles always give me away as the straight girl (Although DJ Lady Bunny usually has me beat by a long shot on not only a sexy outfit but great legs) but the mix of fabu music including my beloved disco and a sea of handsome well dressed men who can dance makes it a must.  Gals also get in on the action and so do the kids as whole families come out to enjoy the afternoon.  It will be at the Diamond Ranch at 600 Mecox Road in Watermill and tickets are $100.  Check out www.prideagenda.org.

Then it’s onto the see and be seen late night party for the young fabulous sophisticated crowd at the Parrish Art Museum Midsummer After 10 Party.  Elligible singles from all over the world fly in for this party which follows the sit down dinner.  The after 10 portion includes drinks, dancing, and dessert for $175.  While you’re there and checking out the eye candy also pick up a brochure for the museum which has not only great art exhibits but fabulous classes and special events.  Get cultured.  The Parrish is at 25 Jobs Lane in Southampton.  Get more info at www.parrishart.org.

Put on your dancing shoes and I’ll see you there!! –>

Have any of you noticed that right around 4th of July couples get in fights or break up?  Is it that he’s just seen all the hottie girls on the beaches in the Hamptons and wants to be free to sample them like some sort of pu pu platter?  Or in the extra heat does her tolerance dip just a bit so that she absolutely can’t stand one more criticism from him?  If you think about it, this holiday has a history based in saying “b–bye.”  America said to England that she could go take a hike this day because this future Starbuck nation didn’t want to drink her stinking high taxed tea anymore.  Our teenaged country wanted to wear short skirts, play with the indians, and stay out late at night without having mama Brittain tell us what to do.  England didn’t understand why we weren’t as cooperative as her other colonial concubines.

The truth of the matter is that each relationship should be judged on its own merits instead of being compared to another or worse, a fantasy of what each partner thinks it can be.  Most of us live in the real world which means that life is a balancing act.  It’s hard to be a woman earning a living and caring for her own life and yet still be some sort of domestic diva for her guy.  To be his housemade/sex goddess she would have to have somehow escaped hormones or the need for sleep.  And in turn men who have impeccable manners and treat women with respect and kindness should not be dumped for Wall Street ass holes in Porches who would sell their grandmother down the river for a buck.  It’s about energy guys and gals and creating a positive understanding vibe where you reach for mutual goals - even if you don’t have abs of steel or a bikini body that stops traffic.  Mostly it’s how your relationship makes you feel inside.  I was walking on the beach this morning feeling kind of blue and saw a seagull with one wing drooping at a bad angle.  When I approached I saw he had not only a bum wing but a bad foot which made him limp.  We looked at one another then up at the sky where another gull soared with effortless ease.   I know, I said to the gull, I’d like to be that bird too. –>